Identify Your Relationship Patterns: Heal Your Emotional Past
When you identify your relationship patterns and heal your emotional past, a new world of hope, partnership and love opens. This was me, pictured above. Much younger. Not having a clue about my worth, purpose or how to choose a quality partner. Frustrated. Feeling like I couldn’t get it right, and maybe never would. Making huge mistakes, experiencing devastating heartbreak, giving away my power and returning to situations believing it would be different next time.
I didn’t have my own back, abandoned myself constantly, didn’t even realize that, or know where to begin.
My limited skillset was rooted in the broken relationships I saw as a young girl and then began repeating as a young adult. That’s what we do, we repeat what we learn and what feels comfortable/familiar, until we learn to do better.
Having grown up around patterns of narcissistic behaviors and being taught not to have boundaries, dating and relationships were messy and felt impossible to get right.
In other areas, I had an amazing life. I’ve always been kind, an empath, generous, with great friends & family. I traveled the world and spent years hiking the beautiful red rock deserts and canyons of Southern Utah and the Southwest, running rapids on the Colorado River, camping and living in the Rocky Mountains, where I moved from New York to explore my love of the outdoors. I dove deep into Vinyasa Yoga and became a teacher. I pursued my love of wine and became a sommelier. I backpacked Southeast Asia alone for two months, learning different cultures and making lifelong friends from other countries. My work allowed me the freedom I craved to live a full, rich life of adventure and varied experiences and yet, something significant was missing.
A harrowing breakup-betrayal changed things for me. I met my first Coach not long after, and she helped me shift and clear up the things that held me back in life.
I formed a hired professional “support staff,” something I encourage all of my clients to do, and began chipping away at this long, difficult process and did the work of identifying old, unfulfilling patterns, understanding and healing them. I faced surges of anger, forgiveness, depression and gratitude, many times, and began learning to genuinely love my authentic Self. I started doing things differently. I broke the patterns until the traits I once found irresistible in damaged partners became repulsive to me. I began to feel that stable, consistent, kind men are not boring, they’re utterly dreamy, and my dysregulated nervous system once thought chaos was an upsetting but still-comfortable norm, until I learned to heal it.
I practiced new healthy patterns, a lot, and over the course of years became an expert at dating effectively and efficiently, and building healthy, loving, fulfilling, nourishing relationships.
Fast forward to today:
I get incredibly excited teaching others the skills to solve these problems once & for all. I help clients build and maintain healthy, long-term Vibrant, Rich & Juicy™ relationships!
A few examples of common issues I assist clients in addressing:
💛 Qualify a partner: Yep, like they’re applying for this role in your life
💛 How to skillfully observe how someone shows up, what they’re willing to give, or not
💛 Pinpoint toxic behaviors that typically don’t change, & healing or “fixing” this person is not your path or responsibility
💛 Assessing someone's consistency & if problematic behaviors indicate they’re not a good fit, or deserve another chance
💛 How to identify love bombing, and get the hell out
💛 THE CRUX OF EVERY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP: 👉COMMUNICATION!!👈
💛 Never be confused by a potential partner again: How to approach mixed signals and sporadic (or regular) inconsistency
💛 When do I walk away?
💛 How on earth do I start over?
And so much more…
Take the step to identify your relationship patterns and heal your emotional past. Some of this work can be done with a Coach, and some must be done in therapy. Reclaim your power in building the life you want and deserve: Book a 1:1 Discovery session.